Start letting go of control
I used to be the emperor of control.
Bad experiences from the past along with several stress-related burnouts and a career that demanded of me to be on top of things had turned me into a control freak.
Not only was I in control of 2 large businesses at work, no I also controlled every single outcome of future decisions in my private life.
I was very good at it. Have always been good in seeing multiple outcomes of a decision or choice.
Too good actually. The all consuming combination of the above-mentioned conditions had turned me into someone controlling everything, even people around me. I didn´t see it at first and have in hindsight a lot of excusing to do.
I did it out of a kind and good heart, just making sure that everything would be all right.
But it was abusive at points. Was wrong and knowing what I do now, I see that the control was absolutely pointless.
I now know that there is not such a thing as absolute control.
There is always something or someone that can remove that control so it cannot be absolute.
Living in Indonesia has taught me a lot of this. Comming from a very controlled and organised country like Denmark, I came with a feeling of being in control of what happened next.
But in Indonesia, I had to let go of my wishes to control and just leave it to trust.
Customs and the ways things are done there sometimes leaves you with no other choices.
You either go with it or fight against it and become eaten up.
So I had to face my fears and instead of preparing for whatever obstacles this might bring me, simply just sit back and enjoy the ride.
See deep down inside I know that I am more than capable to face any problems or obstacles on my path.
There is no reason for me to prepare for all these possible outcomes as I know I will be able to solve them anyway when they arise.
Letting go of control not only set free all of the energy I was using on controlling and worrying, they also allowed beautiful new situations and miracles to happen.
Suddenly I went from having a problem solving mindset to see the joy in the chaos. To see the great potential in the unknown and to just go with whatever life brings you.
I have always believed that life gives you what you are ready for, but now see the paradox of this belief and then fighting what it gives me to prevent me from getting hurt.
Can you release your control?
Ask yourself these simple questions and write down your answers.
Did you ever face your exact predictions and worries?
What would happen if you let the predictions and worries go?
Write 3 things that you feel the need to control.
If you are a kamikaze pilot in life like me you release it right away.
If you are not, whatever is fantastic, just be authentic towards yourself, you start observing when you find the need to be acting out of your wishes to control. By observing you can alter your reactions and doing so at your own pace letting go of this control and letting your miracle happen.